Mentally Ill and Living Well

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is my first entry in my new blog. I am announcing the debut of my new book, Song For My Baby and Other Stories, due out in June, 2020. It is a testament to the fact people can live well while mentally ill. They can enjoy family life, the company of close friends, and pass times the envy of many. My family gathered around me when I got ill, my friends stuck by me, and I played handball, downhill skied, duck hunted, and fished until Hell would not have it. Anything to put me out of the misery I was in. Good times replaced bad times. No one is as sick as you are? I’ve been there, when there was no hope, no view except the bottom of a Manhattan glass. I was known hence forth as my sister’s schizophrenic bother. My only claim to fame was I lived well. Today, I compared myself to people who are healthy and have full lives. Once, I compared myself to nutcases and thought I was doing well. And I was! Those days are gone and I entered a new era of fighting it out with everyone else.


The VA wants me to let go of their support and hang onto resources in the community, like my close friends, A.A., or my family. This was hard because for the last forty five years, I relied on the VA for support. Even now, with the mental health I enjoyed, I saw a psychologist once a month, attended a support group twice a month, and saw my psychiatrist every six months. I was in a forty-five minute study at the VA where the facilitator, a post doctoral candidate, helped me step from the support of the VA to that of the community. I found hanging onto the community daunting. I was alone, felt like I was slipping through a crack, and, now, in a coffee shop by myself, felt bereft. Keeping myself afloat was hard. I had an A.A. meeting tonight but had to hang on until then. Maybe hanging onto the blogging community would help. My support system was strong but scattered.


Please listen up people because I have some important things to say. First, I am “living with schizophrenia,” not “I am schizophrenic.” Second, my hobbies did not get me well. A year long computer study at the VA stabilized me and a 13 week vocational study shot me into permanent happiness. My hobbies made life worth living. Third, my jobs were important, too, probably more than my hobbies. They gave meaning to my life. After I got sick, I vowed I would never have a job I hated again. That’s how I got sick in the first place. Life is good now.

Schizophrenia and the Closet

I wish everyone would get this. Once I came out of the closet about my mental illness, no one cared. There is an old saw that people notice first what you are trying to hide. I don’t wear a T-shirt that says “Schizophrenic” but often I tell people I have had mental problems since my discharge from the Army. It is the principal fact of my life. Some day I will be able to write a book that does not mention my mental illness. Life gets better and better each day.

Schizophrenia and Meeting Others

People are drawn to me or ignore me and I blame their response on my illness. In a group, I always notice when people address their remarks to me or act as if I were not there. At church, for example, I am considered a nice guy but not a force to be reckoned with. Two heart attacks, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and alcoholism have made a sissy of me. I am a leader but the world has not asked me to be a leader, either in the Army or civilian life. I am a cashier at Walgreens. If I lead, I lead by example, and my example is living well while mentally ill.

Schizophrenia and projects

It is important in mental illness, as in life, to have goals. Projects lend themselves to goals. Right now, I am marketing my new book. The process of marketing has given me a new lease on life. I am soaring with the eagles, as I email TV anchors, radio talk show hosts, and bookstores asking them for an interview or a reading. My efforts are bearing fruit, since I received one reject and two positive responses already. I started marketing last week. I could tell you more about this process but space limits me. The experience has made me mentally healthier.

Schizophrenia and the Holidays

With my disease, I was put in the corner as an oddity at family gatherings. This was not always true because my family wanted me to have fun, They knew it was the only social life I got. Because of the severity of my illness, our holidays were sad. My family, broken asunder by my illness, lived on hope. Hope came but too late for my parents to see it. Today, our holidays are joyous. Two years ago I was shot into a fourth dimension by an A.A. workshop and a study at the VA. My immediate family wants me to join them for the holidays. After forty-five years as a black sheep, it’s nice to be popular again.

Mentally Ill and College

I was schizophrenic and went back to school for an MBA at the University of Minnesota. I ate, slept, and studied and saw my psychiatrist every week. The stress was terrific and twice my doctor ordered me to drop out for a semester. The competition was cutthroat and I could almost hear the switchblades come out in class, especially when we were graded on participation. It took five years but somehow, I graduated. My father was a successful banker and I tried banking, that was not to my liking. That was my last shot at the respectable job my mother always wanted for me. I bounced around from job to job and now was a cashier at Walgreens. I am proud of my work at Walgreens and intend to stay. I have outgrown my illness and life is good. I attend one class at the university, Introduction to the Short Story, and feel blessed to have such a great professor. College is free at the university, if you are over 62 years old and a resident of Minnesota. I am a returning student and getting the world class education I always wanted.

Mental Illness and Family

I am the oldest sibling of my family. When I first became mentally ill, I lost all credibility. I was normally a leader in the family but then my brother took over as head of the family. He and my sister ran the show. They looked at me as someone to consider with my best interests in mind. I became the black sheep of the family, a cement brick, something to be swept under the rug. The whole town knew I was schizophrenic. My brother took me on hundreds of skiing, hunting, and fishing trips. For that I was grateful. He was never my guardian. My treatment was between me and my doctors. I took control of it early on. Every time my family got in the act, no matter how well intentioned, it was disastrous. I am independent by nature and handled my care to the best of my ability. My psychiatrist likes it when I play handball, socialize, go to A.A., and write. Anything else is gravy and cost money, skiing, hunting, and fishing included. Those are things I did in my youth. Part of maturing is letting go of the trappings of youth. Handball and writing are the only things that make me happy. The problem with this argument is my God is the outdoors. I leapt at every chance to partake.

Mental Health and College

I am a returning college student. The last time I darkened the door of the University of Minnesota was in 1980. I was nuts in those days. Not so now. A lot has happened, from jobs, to life, to health, to growing older. I survived two heart attacks and defeated my mental illness. The young people who surround me in my Introduction to the Short Story class are smarter than we were and more motivated. College is harder. The quality of education is higher. My teacher is better than I remember my old teachers. I walk past the mall that once held 50,000 students protesting the Viet Nam War. Now, students lay in its grass. My improving mental health allows me to go to college a second time. The U is free, since I am over sixty-five and a resident of Minnesota. I glory in what I learn, in class and outside of it. The students teach me much.